Dear first time mom,
I see you there, rubbing your belly and talking to your baby. You think of what it will be like when she’s here. How your bond will be. What she’ll look like. How she’ll talk. How she’ll act. You just know you will be so happy once she’s here. You’ve been wanting a baby for a long time and God gave you your baby. You cannot wait for the future.
Well.. sometimes things don’t go like you thought and that’s ok. You didn’t have that instant bond like you thought. You had some postpartum that you NEVER thought you would have. You don’t sleep. You think you’re doing everything wrong. You actually say “why did I decide to have a baby??” You’re scared, but you know what.. you’re not alone. You need to remember that. A lot of moms feel this way but it’s not as expressed. Being a mom is the hardest job in the world. It’s not easy. You want everything to be perfect and it’s not. When you were pregnant, the future didn’t look like this. You honestly thought it was going to be a breeze. Your child would sleep through the night, she would be your absolute best friend and you would never have her spend the night away. But she didn’t sleep good last night and you would love for a grandparent to take her for the night. Why isn’t it going the way you thought?
That’s an answer I wish I had. But you know what? It goes by so fast. You blink and that tiny baby is now 3 and is a big big sister. The saying is true. “The days are long but the years are short”. Those longs days that you didn’t think you would get through, guess what, you did. You really do need to take it one day at a time. Some days you love her so much you cry.. and there are some days she so difficult you cry. It’s worth it though. I think the hard times at the beginning makes you a better mom now. Makes you a real mom. Make you a good mom.
Oh and then you have 2 more and doing a hell of a job! Look at you being a badass mom!
Third time mom
PS this isn’t the future you thought, but it’s the future you needed